Archive | October, 2004

The Joys of Married Life

31 Oct

Saturday morning, JB lept out of bed and opened the curtains. I assumed his excitement was for a day of skiing, as we had planned. The man never gets out of bed with such enthusiasm.

Oh, no, it wasn’t because we were going skiing. In fact, plans for skiing went out the window when the man decided it was time for a project.

“I think I’m going to build a shed.”

Which means, since I said “I do” to the man three weeks ago, that I also said “I do” to helping him on any projects he conceives around the house.

So instead of playing, I spent a few hours in Lowes and Home Depot, and spent quite a bit of time outside in the cold Fall weather digging and leveling and getting dirt under my nails.

Ah, married life.

The Curse of the A

28 Oct

My family has a strange tradition of having people go by their middle names. Hence, my first name is something I was never intended to be called.

I started calling myself A. Lynn3tt3 C00k (numbers used to fool search engines) in high school, and even got the DMV and the Social Security office to start calling me that.

I’ve had telemarketers call to talk to A, or AL. I’ve had computer forms call me Alynnette. I’ve even had junk mail come to me as Alynn3tt3 A. C00k.

The A confuses people and computers, and now that I’m married, I decided it’s time to drop the A when I changed my last name.

I was told to start the name change process with Social Security. They didn’t have a problem with dropping the A.

Then I went to the DMV, who told me it would take a court order to drop the A. But after waiting in the hellaciously long DMV line, I went ahead and got my new license as A. Lynn3tt3 B3llin.

So now, I am Lynnette Cook Bellin to the Social Security people, and A. Lynn3tt3 B3llin to the DMV. And I think this is really going to screw things up for me.

I called the court house to ask about the proceedure for getting a court order. I was told to find out myself by reading the Nevada Revised Statutes. After searching the damn statutes for 30 minutes, I’m no closer to knowing how to get the court order without calling an attorney.

Sorry, Mom and Dad, but this going by your middle name tradition will be ending with me. Somehow, some way I’m dropping the A, and I’ve decided just now not to pass the Curse of the A on to any of my children.

And no, I’m not pregnant. I’ve already been asked that question upon the return from our honeymoon. WE HAVEN’T EVEN BEEN MARRIED THREE WEEKS, PEOPLE!

Holy crap. The name change information from the court is 18 pages long. Here is the process:

Sign the Petition and the Verifications attached to the Petition in the presence of a Notary Public.
1. Make three copies of the Petition after it is signed and Notarized and staple the copies in “sets”. All the original pages in one “set” and the copies, pages 1 – 4 make up each other “set”.
2. Fill out, sign and date the “Civil Cover Sheet”.
3. Do not fill out the NOTICE, but make three copies of the NOTICE.
4. Take the Civil Cover Sheet, the Petition and the copies of the Petition and the Notice and the copies of the Notice to the Filing Clerk’s Office at 75 Court Street, Reno, Nevada, with your
filing fee.
5. The Clerk will file stamp the original Petition and the copies. The clerk will keep the original Petition and give you back the file stamped copies.
6. The Clerk will fill in the information on the NOTICE and the copies of the NOTICE, file stamp them, keep the original and give you the file stamped copies back.
8. Take the NOTICE to the newspaper to have it published one time a week for three consecutive weeks.
9. At this time, take a few minutes and fill in the Case No. and Dept. No. that has been assigned to your case on all the other documents you have. Everything in this case must be identified
by that Case No. and Dept. No.
10. At the end of the three weeks publication, the newspaper will mail a “Proof of Publication” to you which will be an Affidavit and a copy of the published Notice. This is then attached to the Proof of Service sheet that is included in this set of documents. Make two copies of the Proof of Service cover sheet and the attached Proof of Publication and file it with the Filing Clerk at 75 Court Street, Reno.
11. Ten days from the last date the Notice appeared in the paper, you may “submit” the case for review and decision by the Judge. To do this, sign the Request for Submission and make two copies of it. Make THREE (3) OR MORE COPIES OF THE ORDER. YOU MAY WANT MORE THAN ONE COPY FOR FUTURE RECORDS. THIS IS THE TIME TO MAKE THEM.
12. Take the Request For Submission and the copies of the Request and the Order and copies of the Order to the Filing Clerk. The Clerk will file in the Request For Submission, keep the original and give you back the copies. These are for your records. The Clerk will keep all
of the Orders for the Judge’s signature.
13. The Judge will usually sign the Order within a week or ten (10) days. The Court may notify you that the Order has been signed, HOWEVER, sometimes, the Judge signs the Order and,
for whatever reason, you are not notified that the Order has been signed. It is up to you to keep track of your documents within the Court process and when asking about the documents, you must always have the Case No. and Dept. No. ready for whoever is assisting
14. It is wise to get at least three (3) “certified copies” of the Order. The orders you brought in with the Request for Submission can be certified and should be in the file. These “certified” copies are necessary for such things as school records, Social Security name change, etc.

Are you kidding me?! I just want to drop the A. At this point, the A is winning. I guess I could hire a lawyer to do the above listed beurocratic nonsense, but for right now, I’ll just sit here and fume.

Hitting the Slopes?!

27 Oct

We returned from our honeymoon to find that the mountains have received feet of snow, and that Kirkwood, home of our season passes, will be open from top to bottom this weekend.

Though I’m still in denail that winter is upon us, we’re dusting off the skis and headed to the slopes this weekend. Check out what awaits us!

Ode to the E-mail Gods

25 Oct

Thank you, oh e-mail Gods, for suspending my work e-mail account on October 11 because my Inbox size exceeded its limit. I had expected thousands of unread e-mails, but only had a few hundred to deal with.

Returning to work wasn’t nearly as traumatic as I had expected. I made it to the gym at lunch today, and it felt SO good. I’ve also decided to shock my body a bit by consuming proteins and veggies for the next few weeks. I figure that will counter act the diet of nearly all carbs that I survived on in Italy.

I have a doctor’s appointment on Nov. 4, where I know I’ll be weighed. Hopefully by then, I will have worked off most of the calories consumed in Italy so that I don’t faint and fall off the scale in shock.

That shock would probably compare to the shock of checking my credit card statement online today. Ouch. Oh, well. You only go on a honeymoon once, right?

Remember Me?

24 Oct

Now presenting the new improved version of me — Mrs. B! We’re back from our honeymoon in Italy, which was wonderful! We got back Friday at about 11:30 pm after 24.5 hours of travel. We’re both jet lagged. In fact, it is 5:30 in the morning right now on Sunday, and I’ve been up for an hour. Despite being very tired, my body clock is still very off.

The wedding was wonderful. A bit overwhelming, but wonderful. Most everything went smoothly.

One of the best decisions we made was to go on our honeymoon two days after the wedding. Even though it was great to see everyone that came to the wedding, I was so excited to be alone with JB for 11 days in romantic Italy.

I haven’t touched a computer in 17 days, which I think is a personal record. At least, that’s the longest I’ve gone without touching a computer since probably high school. And it was wonderful. I admit that the Internet cafes were a bit alluring, but then I stopped myself, knowing I’d be attached to a keyboard again soon enough.

I kept an old fashioned paper travel jounal while in Italy, and I hope to get some of those entries posted for all of you soon. Basically, our honeymoon consisted of the following:

  • Arrive in Naples, Europe’s most densely populated city
  • After spending one night in Naples, we went to Capri, a small island off the coast of Naples
  • We spent two nights in a DELUXE resort on a cliff that overlooked the ocean
  • We then took a ferry, bus and train to Florence. We spent two days in Florence, the first of which JB caught a cold and the second of which I spent half a day doing laundry. Doing laundry in an Italian laundrymat was an experience in itself. More on that later.
  • From Florence, we went to Cinque Terre, where we hiked 7 miles between the five fishing villages, and probably another three within the villages and to a nude beach that was completely and utterly vacant.
  • After two nights in Cinque Terre, we took the train to Venice, where we got endlessly lost on the ancient Roman street grid and did the traditional gondola ride. We also enjoyed deuling orchestras at night in St. Mark’s Square, which has to be one of the most romantic settings EVER.
  • After three nights in Venice, we came home. We spent yesterday opening packages, cleaning the house, and walking the dogs, who after almost two weeks of no dog walks and attention were BOUNCING OFF THE WALLS.

Overall, it’s good to be back. The last two weeks, including the wedding and the honeymoon, went by so fast, but have so many wonderful memories. They have to be the best two weeks of my life.

I think I’m finally coming down with the cold that JB had for the second week of our trip. At least I didn’t get sick on the trip… Now, the only thing I’m dreading is going to work on Monday after being gone for so long. I should start a pool for people to guess how many unread e-mails I’ll have. For some reason, the number 4000 sticks out in my head, but then again, I think at some point I probably exceeded my account size and Outlook probably shut down my account.

Until next time, I sign off as Mrs. Lynnette Bellin, the deleriously happy newlywed.

Can We Slow This Train Down?

6 Oct

Well, my parents are now in town. Greg, Jane, Jack and Luke are staying in Incline Village (30 minutes outside of Reno at Lake Tahoe), and they arrived there last night. Today, I have a bridesmaid (Sami) and JB’s sister and her boyfriend showing up. Tomorrow, we’ll see the rest of the wedding party and JB’s parents. Woah! I feel like I’m on a runaway train! Time already feels like it has been sped up.

I guess my main concern as of right now is the darn weather. It’s supposed to be beautiful all week, but then it will change on Saturday, when it is supposed to get cold (in the 60s) and rainy.

This is Nevada and October, a state that doesn’t get much rain at all, and in the month that we get the least amount of rain. The odds of it raining on my wedding day were slim, but now it’s looking like a pretty certain possibility. Can’t I get cut some slack in the weather department? Oh well, at least all of the festivities are inside.

We now have limo arrangements to and from the reception, as well as luxury hotel suites for Friday – Sunday. Friday night, I’ll be staying in a suite with Sami, one of the bridesmaids, so that I’ll be following the tradition of not seeing my groom until the ceremony.

Tomorrow, I have my bridal portrait, and I’m still not sure how the heck I’m going to do my hair for it. I guess we’ll just wait and see what inspiration hits me.

This is likely to be my last post for a while. Thanks to all of you for your support over the past five months!

Wedding Ring Engraving

5 Oct

I have been contemplating for a few weeks now what I wanted to engrave in JB’s ring. After searching countless websites for ideas, I remembered the title of a poem that I wrote for him in September of 2003. So I’m now headed to a jeweler to get “You Make My Heart Smile” engraved in his ring along with our wedding date. Here is the poem that inspired me. Heh. I inspired myself!

You Make My Heart Smile

I don’t know why
I’m so afraid
If you weren’t real
I would make you up.

I’d imagine the love
In your green eyes,
The taste
Of your soft lips,
The sound of our laughter,
And the feel of your hand in mine.

Every day I grow closer to you
And realize more and more
That you’re exactly
What I’ve been looking for.

You make me laugh,
You make me sigh,
You give me butterflies,
But most of all,
You make my heart smile.

Take my hand
We’re in this together
I can’t wait to see
Where this path leads.